(File image) Clearing up past issues can mean anything from handling unresolved matters to healing or letting go of broken relationships. When you no longer have these unresolved matters hanging over you, time and space is created for new things to come into your life.
Clearing Up Past Issues
FEBRUARY 27, 2008Susan Scholl, HappyNews ColumnistTo some extent, everyone carries issues from their past with them. After all, we are products of our past. The problem that lies within are the negative issues which can get in the way of creating the life you want to live or being the person you want to be. When you choose to live in the past rather than the present, you might possibly be cheating yourself of living a fulfilled life. When you clear up the past, you allow yourself to live in the present and to create a life full of purpose. It’s not about forgetting the past; it’s about learning from past lessons, letting go and moving forward. Have you ever felt as if there is a little person or persons sitting on your shoulder at times feeding you negative information about yourself? Let’s call that “the itty bitty critical committee.” This committee is comprised of voices and messages of the past working at driving down your self-esteem and trying to hold you back from being all you can be. If you think about it, you can probably even name the members of the committee. Let’s see what we can do to give that committee a permanent vacation by starting to work on clearing up past issues. In my coaching education at Coach U, Inc. this was one of the most challenging areas to work with. I kept thinking somehow that I needed to forget the past. Obviously, you don’t forget the past, but you don’t have to let it guide your present life either if it continually creates chaos. Hanging on to issues such as a past relationship or negative comments by others does not allow you to move forward into a creating a purposeful life. Clearing up past issues can mean anything from handling unresolved matters to healing or letting go of broken relationships. When you no longer have these unresolved matters hanging over you, time and space is created for new things to come into your life. Take a good look at “the committee.” Are you hearing untrue comments about yourself? You know the answer to that better than anyone on “the committee.” If these are untrue statements about you, then let go of the messages because they are not valid. It’s amazing how “the committee” will begin to silence itself when you address the statements which are not true anyway.
Take some time to look at any old habits that no longer serve you. Setting up new positive daily habits will allow you to see life in a new way. Take a look at any unfinished projects that are hanging over you. If you have a project sitting around for weeks, months or years, it may be time to evaluate its importance. Is it still a worthwhile project? If so, complete it. If not, let it go and make space for something more important. Are there certain situations that continue to bring up unresolved matters? Is there a primary source involved? If so, addressing the primary source can clear up several unresolved matters at one time. For example, is there something like an unsettled relationship that continues to get in the way of your future? What needs to happen to get clear of this issue? Do you start to resolve it and then stop? If so, what is stopping you? Do you need to seek some professional help to come to resolution? Some past issues might invite professional counseling. If you ever feel counseling is appropriate for you, by all means, seek the help you need. There are many qualified counselors ready to work with you.
By clearing up the past, you will have more confidence in yourself, more opportunities will come your way, more time will become available, and you will have fewer problems to deal with.
Susan Scholl is a Certified Professional Life Coach. You can read more about her at www.susanscholl.com